How will family divides over vaccination status affect Thanksgiving gatherings?
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Thanksgiving is Jonatan Mitchell's favorite holiday, usually spent with his wife co-hosting up to 20 loved ones. He바카라 게임 웹사이트d been looking forward to the gathering this year after calling it off in 2020 due to the pandemic, but one of the most pressing issues of the times got in the way: Who바카라 게임 웹사이트s vaccinated and who바카라 게임 웹사이트s not?
Mitchell, 35, in Coon Rapids, Minnesota, has a rare neurological disorder called Kleine-Levin Syndrome and a smattering of related health issues that leave him at high risk should he contract COVID-19. Two relatives 바카라 게임 웹사이트 his father-in-law and a brother-in-law 바카라 게임 웹사이트 won't get vaccinated.
Rather than laying down an ultimatum doomed to fail, the Mitchells called off Thanksgiving, choosing instead to host a Friendsgiving the following day. Mitchell's vaccinated wife will catch up with her family on Thursday.
The situation, which Mitchell said is upsetting and frustrating, resonates with many families navigating the vaccination divide for the holidays. Thanksgiving is a bellwether for how the rest of the season will go among those facing family conflict over the shot.
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That sentiment, echoed by others, points to a transition in the pandemic from abject fear over public safety to a more long-term and intimate reshaping of social norms, said Karla Erickson, a professor of sociology at Grinnell College.
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Carrie Verrocchio, 55, in Binghamton, New York, is a long-haul COVID-19 survivor still struggling with a loss of taste and smell 10 months after testing positive. She's hosting about 11 for Thanksgiving. Five are unvaccinated. All have been informed, she said.
바카라 게임 웹사이트You just want people to be happy and be together, and it feels like there is constant friction. No matter what we do, there바카라 게임 웹사이트s constant friction these days,바카라 게임 웹사이트 said Verrocchio, who took the vaccination after contracting the virus. 바카라 게임 웹사이트We're handling it by letting everyone make their own decisions. It isn't ideal, but it is a plan.바카라 게임 웹사이트
Lizzie Post is the great-great-granddaughter of etiquette legend Emily Post. Her famous relative wrote her first book, 바카라 게임 웹사이트Etiquette,바카라 게임 웹사이트 in 1922, not long after the Spanish flu took its deadly toll. Emily made no mention of how to navigate such a threat in that first edition, but the subject today is hard for her etiquette standard bearers to ignore.
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The avoidance of fraught is exactly the approach Eva Keller and her husband are taking for Thanksgiving. He has been vaccinated. She has contracted COVID-19 twice and has no plans to get the shot. There was no talk of Thanksgiving with her husband's kin.
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The two will spend Thanksgiving at home together.
Erickson sees other pandemic strands at play heading into the holiday season.
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August Abbott answers etiquette questions at JustAnswer.com, a help line that has just over 10 million unique monthly visitors. Of late, she has been responding to a barrage of questions about holiday gatherings and vaccinations. Among them: Is it rude to ask for a guest's vaccination status? Can I disinvite somebody who isn't vaccinated?
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Tone, Abbott said, is everything.
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Frederick Brushaber, 36, in Cincinnati will be gathering for Thanksgiving with 13 family members at his mother's house in Knoxville, Tennessee. The group includes his husband and their 15-month-old son, Freddie, who has Down syndrome, which puts him at higher risk for complications should he catch COVID.
Brushaber's 88-year-old grandmother, who lost her husband this year, was supposed to be driving from Florida to Knoxville with an aunt and uncle. They're not vaccinated. They won't be coming after his mother had the Thanksgiving vaccination talk with them. That means grandma must board a plane alone for the first time without her husband.
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